Transformative Couples Counselling & Therapy
Trauma‑informed, coaching‑infused therapy for emotionally intelligent couples navigating parenting and career demands, seeking a deeper connection.
“Uri has been instrumental in helping us reconnect after our relationship fell apart.”
— Client, 42, Sydney
"We both felt seen and heard.”
— Client, 33, Brisbane
“Uri created a safe space for both of us, guiding us toward
relating respectfully and communicating compassionately.”
— Client, 37, Melbourne
Is Your Relationship in the Danger Zone?
Even emotionally strong couples can find themselves stuck in patterns that chip away at connection. If you’re feeling constant tension, disconnection, or disillusionment—this section is for you.
Are you constantly feeling unheard and stuck in unhealthy communication loops?
Miscommunication and emotional distance are among the most common sources of relationship conflict, often amplifying misunderstandings into entrenched patterns.
Are you unsatisfied with your physical or emotional intimacy?
Intimacy isn't just about sex—it’s emotional closeness. When either form fades, couples frequently report feeling disconnected and emotionally isolated.
Is trust broken or strained, leading to ongoing conflict?
A foundation shaken by betrayal, inconsistency, or secrecy can erode the emotional bond. Trust is essential for connection, and its absence can deepen conflict and misunderstanding.
Are money disagreements creating tension or secrecy between you?
Financial conflict ranks among the most common stressors for couples—whether from hidden debts, mismatched spending habits, or the emotional meaning we attach to money. These issues often reveal deeper unmet needs in trust or communication.
Is parenting stress or imbalance eroding your connection?
Differences in parenting styles, unequal caregiving, and exhaustion can drive emotional distance and frustration. These repeated tensions often mask deeper relationship dynamics, not a lack of intent.
These warning signals aren’t the end—they often precede your capacity to heal. When identified consciously, the Danger Zone can become a pivotal catalyst toward deeper connection.
Ready to shift toward growth and presence? Let’s explore how couples therapy can guide you back to closeness, clarity, and calm.
The Relationship Zones Model
Which zone do you choose to be in?
Your Path to a Thriving Relationship
You’ve identified what’s holding you back. Now, let’s explore how to move forward—together, deeply, and intentionally.
Couples Counselling and Therapy
Phase 1: Reset and Rebuild (12-week season)
Break destructive cycles, rebuild trust, and strengthen communication. Over 12 weeks, we’ll give you the tools to shift from conflict to connection.
Phase 2: Deepen and Thrive (6-Month Journey)
A customised journey to elevate intimacy, trust, and alignment. We’ll address parenting, finances, and deeper patterns so you can truly thrive together.
Couples Intensives
Couples Intensives
Step away from daily stress and reconnect in a focused, immersive space. Retreats offer deep transformation, combining therapy, coaching, and nature to reset your bond.
Trauma-Informed Mediation
Mediation & Co-Parenting Support
Navigate separation, parenting, or high-conflict situations with clarity and compassion. Structured mediation can restore communication and reduce ongoing friction.
Phase 1: Reset and Rebuild
Over 12 weeks, we’ll focus on interrupting unhelpful patterns, rebuilding trust, and teaching vital communication skills. This phase will help you and your partner break free from destructive cycles and establish a solid foundation for your relationship.
The Painful Danger Zone
The Danger Zone is where many couples find themselves when they first seek support. Constant arguments, defensiveness, and unmet needs create a sense of instability that impacts not just the couple but everyone around them, including their children.
Phase 1 is designed to help you step out of this cycle and move into the Growth Zone, where safety and respect begin to flourish.
The Hopeful Growth Zone
During these 12 sessions (over 3-4 months), we will:
Identify destructive patterns: Recognise the cycles that keep you stuck in the Danger Zone.
Rebuild trust: Lay the foundation for mutual respect and understanding.
Teach essential communication skills: Learn how to express your needs and emotions clearly without blame or judgment.
Create a shared vision: Establish new agreements and boundaries that support a healthier relationship dynamic.
What You’ll Achieve:
Move from reactive to responsive communication.
Create a safer emotional environment for yourself and your loved ones.
Identify and overcome the key barriers in your relationship.
Build a foundation of trust and respect that allows for growth.
Phase 2: Deepen and Thrive
The Wonderful Blossom Zone
After resetting and rebuilding your relationship, it’s time to move into the Blossom Zone—a space where relationships flourish and thrive. In this phase, we focus on customised topics tailored to your specific needs, ensuring that your relationship continues to grow and deepen.
Over 6 months (12 sessions), we’ll explore areas that matter most to you, such as:
Sex and Intimacy: Rekindle your connection and navigate mismatched desires with compassion.
Finance: Create alignment around money decisions and reduce financial tension.
Shared Responsibilities: Build equality in household and life management tasks.
Well-being: Support each other’s physical, emotional, and mental health.
Values Alignment: Discover how your personal values can align with your relationship values.
Trust: Strengthen and maintain the trust you’ve rebuilt.
Family of Origin: Discover how your family shapes who you are and how you relate.
Quality Time: Remove distractions (like social media) and focus on gratitude and presence.
This phase empowers you to create a flourishing relationship where both partners feel truly aligned and fulfilled.
Private Intensives (Relationship Retreats)
A trauma-informed and deeply immersive experience uniquely for you—crafted to fast-track you into profound connection and clarity.
2 or 3-Day Journeys, 6 Hours/Day + Lunch
Daily structure: Four 90-minute sessions per day, spaced with restorative breaks, and one-hour lunch to reflect and recharge.
Session types: A balanced blend of joint couple sessions and individual time, offering both shared growth and personal processing.
Integrative modalities: Includes somatic and nature-based exploration, creative integration (with symbolic tools like crayons or paper), and an emphasis on embodied connection.
Documented, Change-Focused Outcomes
A live-recorded and transcribed summary of agreements and insights—a tangible guide for your next steps.
A co-created accountability model that outlines:
Commitments each partner makes
How you’ll check in with each other
Supports in place (e.g., follow-up therapy, solo practices, community)
Mediation & Co-Parenting Support
A trauma-informed, win-win pathway toward clarity, respect, and sustainable agreements.
How it works:
One pre-session each (60 min):
Individual meetings allow each partner to share concerns and goals in a safe, private space.One or two joint mediation sessions (3 hours):
In neutral, structured settings, we explore needs, create mutual understanding, and co-create a resolution.One final integration session each(60 min):
Held after the joint process to reflect, clarify, or address any emerging needs.
Every agreement is provided in written form, ensuring clarity and accountability. As a trauma‑informed mediator, I prioritise safety, transparency, choice, and collaboration, helping you feel supported, seen, and empowered throughout.
A Tailored Approach to Your Growth and Transformation
Every journey is unique—and I treat it that way. Through trauma-informed counselling, we co-create a personalised path designed for who you are right now—your challenges, strengths, and goals. Here’s how we build your journey:
A compassionate opening session, where we’ll explore what matters most to you and identify what’s in the way of real change and connection.
Guided "Seasons" of progress, crafted step by step around your evolving needs—whether that means prioritising clarity, rebuilding trust, or integrating new insight.
Regular check-ins and adaptability, so we stay aligned with your pace and response. If something isn't working, we adjust. If something is resonating, we deepen it.
Read about the pillars that underpin my work.
Safe and Confidential
Your privacy is protected—everything we explore stays between us..
Experienced Guide
Over a decade of trauma-informed counselling to support you.
True Accountability
Push gently, stay consistent, and celebrate your progress—I'm here with you.
Sustainable Change
This is all about change that lasts and supportive habits that are here to stay.
Culturally Inclusive
Your culture, identity, and story guide how we work—not the other way around.
Team Work
You're the expert in your story. Together, we co-create a path forward.
What my clients say
About Uri—Your Relationship Guide
After seeing how others have transformed their relationships, you might be wondering: Who’s guiding this process?
I’m Uri Bookman, a process-oriented psychotherapist, certified coach, trainer and facilitator specialising in relationships and communication. With years of experience, I’ve helped countless individuals and couples rebuild connections, navigate conflicts, and create thriving relationships.
What sets my approach apart? I believe that romantic, familial, or professional relationships are the key to awakening and growth. By working on yourself, you can transform the dynamics around you.
My methods are rooted in emotional intelligence, Nonviolent Communication, and my unique Relationship Zones model, which I’ve developed to guide couples through the different stages of their journey.
Whether it’s teaching vital communication skills, resolving deep-seated patterns, or guiding couples toward mutual respect and intimacy, I provide practical tools that empower you to create lasting change.
Let’s work together to make your most important relationships a source of profound connection and fulfilment.
Take the Next Step Towards a Thriving Relationship
Investing in your relationship is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. Whether you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or simply want to strengthen the bond you share, the time to act is now.
Are you ready to transform your relationship into a source of connection, respect, and fulfilment?
Here’s how you can begin:
👉 Book a Free 15-minute Call: Let’s discuss where you’re at and how I can support you. This is your opportunity to ask questions and see if this process feels right for you.
👉 Schedule Your First Session: Ready to dive in? Reserve your spot today and take the first step toward resetting and rebuilding your relationship.
This process is not about quick fixes—it’s about creating lasting change and nurturing the relationship you deserve.
Your thriving relationship starts with one small, courageous step.
I’m here to guide you every step of the way.
Investment
Reset & Rebuild
12 x 90-min sessions - AUD 300 per session.
Deepen & Thrive
15+ 90-minute sessions - AUD 300 per session.
Couples Retreat
2 days of 6 hours each - AUD 2,500.
3 days of 6 hours each - $3,600.
Mediation (e.g. co-parenting)
Min 3 hours AUD 250 per hour.
*Sliding scale is available—please reach out if budget is a concern.
Frequently Asked Questions
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You’ll know that hitting the gym once—or even three times in a fortnight—won’t suddenly make you fit. It’s the ongoing commitment that builds strength and flexibility. The same is true for your relationship: changing deep patterns requires regular practice and sustained effort over time.
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Many couples notice meaningful shifts—such as increased calm, clearer communication, or a renewed sense of connection—within 3 to 4 sessions. Substantial and lasting transformation often unfolds over 12 to 16 sessions, depending on your goals and journey together.
Why this matters: Research shows that when couples engage deeply in therapy, 60–72% report significant improvements, and 70% show improved relationship functioning using evidence-based approaches like integrative behavioural therapy.
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The best time is now—even if things feel okay. Studies show that many couples wait an average of six years from the emergence of serious problems before seeking help. That can mean patterns have become more entrenched, making change more challenging. If you’re considering therapy now, you're likely acting on wisdom rather than fear.
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Typically, we start with weekly or fortnightly sessions, then adjust to what suits your schedule and pace. Consistent attendance + intentional conversations between sessions supports meaningful growth.
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Yes—everything we explore is held in complete confidence, guided by professional ethical standards. The only exception, as always, is if there's a serious risk of harm.
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Couples therapy addresses the dynamics between you, not just what’s happening internally. I'm here to support both partners' voices, helping you understand each other more deeply and move forward collaboratively. This joint healing and growth process reflects the essence of therapeutic coaching for relationships.
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Yes. While therapy has a financial cost, failing to address relational drift often leads to compounded emotional, financial, and practical costs. Therapy equips you with communication tools, emotional understanding, and relational resilience that last a lifetime.
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Yes—sessions are available both online (via secure video) and in person, giving you the flexibility to work in a format that feels most supportive and convenient.
Relationship Insights & Tips
